Getting your wife back in the toughest situations Part 2

What I'm going to share with you today will go against the grain of what our culture has become. But with the divorce rates so high, I really don't feel bad about saying this. In my last blog you learned that to save your marriage is about attraction. Once your wife is attracted to you again, your marriage problems that you are currently facing will fade away into the background. In fact your marriage will fix itself. In this post, you're going to learn how to spark your wife's attraction for you through one easy concept: Leadership. Let me start by asking you a question: Who is the leader in your marriage? You or your wife? In other words, who wears the pants in your marriage? Let's be honest here and admit that your wife is in control of your marriage. She has all the power. Now let me ask you another question: Do you know any men who "wear the pants" in their marriages? Probably not very many. Sadly, my father didn't as my parents are now divorced. Some of the men in the groups I am in fellowship with have not as many of them are divorced. In past relationships, I have been guilty of handing control to my girlfriend and it cost me. Over the past fifty years we have gone deeper into a gender-neutral society. Is it a coincidence that divorce rates have increased so much in the same amount of time? I'm going to just tell you like it is. Women are attracted to leadership and you as the husband must be the leader and the wife will follow. Any other arrangement inevitably leads to unhappiness or divorce. Why? Because leadership is the one trait that all women find irresistibly attractive. Submission is the one trait that all women find repulsive. Leadership is not just an essential trait of a good husband, it's the cornerstone on which all other essential traits are built. Without your leadership, your marriage and your happiness will always feel out of control. You have probably heard of this saying, "Nice guys finish last?" I don't like saying that because "nice guys" can easily be leaders, but it does have some truth to it. If you're not the leader, then your wife will inevitably want to find a man who is. Now I'm not saying that men are better than women. Every leader needs a supporter or he's not a leader. Both of the roles in marriage are 100% equal and 100% needed for a happy marriage. Take some time and consider the following questions. Do you believe men and women are innately different, beyond simple anatomy? Is your wife the leader of your relationship? In what ways? Has your relationship always been that way? Do you believe that as a husband your leadership is necessary to a happy marriage? Why or why not? Until next time...